Advice: Sex While She’s On Her Period


Dear Theresa,

My boyfriend always wants to have sex while I’m on my period. I think it’s gross, but he says he doesn’t mind. I still haven’t let him, but ironically I always seem to be hornier when it’s that time of month. Should I try it? And if I do, how can I do it so it won’t be gross?


Dear Flow,

Wow, he doesn’t mind and you do? Actually it’s not as uncommon as it sounds. In my experience, girls are usually more freaked out about this issue than guys are. Almost EVERY woman I know will downright refuse to have sex while Aunt Flow is visiting. I think it’s remarkable that men have finally gotten over the ick factor of a woman’s period, and have come to accept that the menstrual cycle is part of woman that can’t be changed. Now we just need to women to come to that same acceptance. Women grow up being told that being on your period should be kept a secret, not discussed and that it is an inconvenience of being a woman. I tend to agree about that last part, but it is something that I’m trying to embrace more. A woman’s menstrual cycle is really the epitome of being a woman, besides giving birth and boobs and stuff. A great book to read on this subject is “Cunt” by Inga Muscio. She talks in length about women taking back their womanhood and embracing it, and the word cunt.

But, back to the subject at hand: booty while bleeding. You really have to read your own body, Flow. If you are having wretched cramps and bleeding heavily, it’s probably not a good time to get down and dirty. However, if it’s fairly light and you’re feeling good, there’s no problem. Put a towel underneath you and go to town. According to Columbia University’s health professional question and answer website, a woman’s tendency to be hornier during her period could be due to a couple of factors: one is the surge of estrogen during ovulation that is still lingering during menstruation. A second reason is that the possibility of pregnancy is greatly reduced, so some women feel more freely about having sex during that time. And the third reason is that pelvic congestion is heightened during your period so that can be interpreted as arousal. By the way, it has been proven that sex is a great reliever of cramps!

Do be aware of what’s going on down there, but not so much that you aren’t able to have a good time. There may be a bit of a mess when you are done, but that’s what the towel is for. Don’t freak out about how your man will react to the mess if there is one, he knew what he was getting into when he decided he wanted to have sex with you on your period. If you try it and you just don’t like it, then by all means don’t do it anymore. It’s your body and you have to be comfortable. He can wait 5 days!

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