I had a one night stand with a guy I kinda knew after seeing him at a bar. It was horrible and I don’t want to hook up with him anymore, let alone talk to him or date him. He keeps calling me, because I stupidly left my number on the counter before I snuck out in the morning. I don’t answer the phone and don’t return his calls. It’s been a month, and he STILL calls me every Friday and Saturday night at about 2:00 in the morning when the bars close. Why won’t he get the point?
TELL HIM TO STOP CALLING YOU!!!!
I have a friend to does this, she’s very passive aggressive and hates confrontation. A guy she slept with called her continually for THREE MONTHS! For some god awful reason guys just don’t get the frickin point! It is very frustrating. HOWEVER, (I know I keep using all caps, but I’m practically yelling at the computer, therefore I needed a way to show that) put yourself in his shoes. Just be a woman and give him the courtesy that he deserves as a human being. The only crime he committed was being bad in bed. And although that is right up there with shoplifting and chewing gum in bed, he still deserves to be treated with a bit of dignity. You’ll be surprised how much he will appreciate it. In fact, I’ll so helpful as to tell you EXACTLY what to say to him. The conversation should go something like this:
“Hey there, I’m really sorry I haven’t been returning your calls. You’re a really nice guy, I’m just not feeling it between us. I hope you understand. I’ll probably see ya around.”
If you do not end it, he will not stop calling. I guarantee it. I don’t know how to stress this to you enough (I’m done with caps by the way). And if you are still too pussy to tell him how you feel, just lie and say you are dating someone. He probably won’t believe you, but he’ll stop calling at 2 am. Good luck!
Oh, and just so you don’t think I can’t sympathize, I did this to a guy too. We slept together one time in January and finally in JUNE, I had to answer his call and tell him I’m not interested.